Wednesday, February 01, 2006

It's Hard Being an Only Child

My mom has been losing her memory. Her physician claims this is due to all the medication she takes for various cardiac problems. I think there's more going on than that, and after calling her last night, I'm more convinced than ever. It sounds as though she's on the way to losing her mind. Another scary sign: her voice rose higher, as though she's a 10-year-old girl again.

An excerpt:
Mom: What are you doing tomorrow?
R: I have class, I'm working at the front desk, and singing in chapel.
Mom: Are you in school now?
Dad: What? She's at Seabury.
Mom: How do you spell it? A,G,O...
R: Mom, what are you spelling?
Mom: Is it A,B,C? A,G,O?
Dad: What in the world are you talking about?
Mom: I don't know, can we talk about something else?
R: Okay, how are you feeling today?
Mom: Is the gin on sale? A,G,O
R: Gin?
Mom: Is it on sale at the store?

Just for the record, my mom doesn't drink gin, or anything else with alcohol. I do not think she's spelling American Guild of Organists. I'm alarmed by this conversation. Why didn't God grant me a sibling? I'm melancholy today.


Blogger Dawgdays said...

I'm sorry to hear that you are embarking on this long road.

Maybe things will improve if her meds are adjusted.

I'd like to suggest the book, "The 36-Hour Day." I found it very helpful and informative.

I also hope that she has a Durable Power of Attorney (including a healthcare clause) in place. It makes things so much easier.

This is a tough situation. There's no two ways about it. Hang in there.



12:13 PM  
Blogger Emily said...

What Wes said. . .


12:16 PM  
Blogger Being Shielded said...

As a healthcare manager and gerontologist, I'm going to back up Wes on the Power of Attorney and any advanced directive. "Five Wishes" is an especially good, simple one.

While meds can be a problem, and should be looked into, it might not be the meds. Your mom might have had memory problems for years, and they're just getting bad enough for you to see them. (Really, I'm guessing, based on what you've said and general data.) She might have compensated before without you noticing.

((Hugs)) and prayers.

2:44 AM  
Blogger Ryan said...

God has granted you some siblings, in a manner of speaking. Let us pray with you.


12:46 PM  

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